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Why I chose Islam
I entered Islam age 25 march 2006 I am Australian female
Growing up
I was placed in child-care my parents both worked
My dad gambled and drank
My mum has always been one to want the best for us and seems to think material
posessions make you a better person - dressing to perfection, never leave the
house without make-up and hair done.
I wouldn’t say I have had a bad up-bringing or bad childhood at all. I was
very loved and never went without. I have a large family of grandparents,
cousins, aunts and uncles who I saw often.
There is just a few things that bother me :
when we were children mum used us as tools against dad : we were sent into
pubs/bars in our PJ’s to find our dad, if they fought which was often we were
always around to hear everything which obviously makes a mould on how you think
a relationship works. I’ve seen my mother throw knives at my father and
physically get into him. My father’s gambling and drinking caused the majority
of arguments in the house and trouble with money. I also always felt there was
tension with suspicion of my father being with other women, I don’t know if
that ever happened but I feel like my mother thought that.
Both my parents have walked around the house naked or in underwear our whole
lives which I find quite disturbing. My father burps and farts all the time also
which I find repulsive, it is something I really struggle with handling.
Being brought up in a western society and developing earlier than most women I
was also often the subject of sexual interest from men from a young age, leading
to my sex-life starting far to prematurely at just 13, also being in such a
serious relationship from such a young age I have become someone who is in need
of the attention of someone else to feel worthy which I think has been really
un-healthy for my mental stability and every relationship since, including
friendships with women. Because as I was the object of guy’s attentions girls
generally were cruel to me, called me names or used my friendship to gain
themselves something which has led to me finding difficulty in trusting women.
These may seem like quite small issues particularly to a western family….it is
maybe normal behaviour but it had definitely moulded me to be someone who was
very confused and unstable.
I feel if I had grown up as a Muslim where drinking and gambling are not
allowed, family is of great importance and your mother or family generally care
for you rather than complete strangers,
where beauty and material possessions are not of the ut-most importance, where
adultery is not allowed and therefore jealousy less common, where sex before
marriage or relationships in general are not permissible therefore you are less
likely to end up with troubles that you are not capable of handling before your
mind has developed enough to understand how relationships work.
Where having good manners and modesty are important and things such as farting
or burping , showing your naked body would not be considered acceptable
Where covering your body to avoid the advances of men and be respected for who
you are as a person rather than an object
I today would not be so messed up in the head, suffered depression, anorexia and
several failed relationships and friendships……
These are the physical reasons for my decision to enter Islam as I want to marry
a respectful man and raise a well adjusted and happy family, I believe western
values are the cause of many family breakdowns. Spiritually having Allah there
for me after a lifetime of not knowing there was anyone I feel I am finally
becoming free of the mould and free to be who I am and a good person …however
now I am accused of having rejected my culture and my up-bringing and caused my
family to believe they have failed as parents and now have a daughter with
multiple personalities, all because I can finally feel free to be who I have
always wanted to be……….
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